100 Steps to Be Better at Fi

100 Steps to Be Better at Fi

Knowing Your Values

  1. Write a list of what matters most to you.
  2. Rank them in order of importance.
  3. Reflect on why each value is meaningful.
  4. Notice when you feel “off” — it signals a value conflict.
  5. Keep a journal of situations where your values were tested.
  6. Distinguish between inherited values and chosen ones.
  7. Revisit your values yearly — refine them.
  8. Ask yourself: “Would I still value this if no one agreed?”
  9. Create a personal motto.
  10. Recognize your non-negotiables.

Authenticity Practice

  1. Notice when you pretend for approval.
  2. Journal times you didn’t speak your truth.
  3. Practice saying “this doesn’t feel right to me.”
  4. Express small preferences honestly (food, music).
  5. Share feelings vulnerably with trusted friends.
  6. Write letters you don’t send — to express truth.
  7. Choose clothing that feels like you.
  8. Speak from the heart in safe spaces.
  9. Notice when comparison pulls you away from yourself.
  10. Celebrate small acts of self-honesty.

Emotional Awareness

  1. Label your emotions precisely.
  2. Track emotions in a daily mood journal.
  3. Notice bodily sensations tied to feelings.
  4. Reflect on childhood emotions that shaped you.
  5. Practice “name it to tame it” when overwhelmed.
  6. Allow yourself to sit with sadness or joy fully.
  7. Distinguish between your feelings and others’.
  8. Learn your emotional triggers.
  9. Practice forgiveness — feel it authentically, not forced.
  10. Notice beauty and how it makes you feel inside.

Moral Compass

  1. Ask: “What feels right, even if unpopular?”
  2. Notice when rules clash with your sense of justice.
  3. Reflect on historical figures who lived by conviction.
  4. Consider when compromise would betray you.
  5. Journal about ethical dilemmas you’ve faced.
  6. Clarify boundaries between your values and social pressure.
  7. Develop the courage to hold unpopular views.
  8. Ask: “What kind of person do I want to be?”
  9. Trust your conscience as a guide.
  10. Revisit tough decisions and what they revealed about you.

Boundaries & Self-Respect

  1. Practice saying no without guilt.
  2. Notice when “yes” feels like self-betrayal.
  3. Set limits on draining relationships.
  4. Identify what behaviors you won’t tolerate.
  5. Journal times you ignored your own limits.
  6. Strengthen your ability to walk away when necessary.
  7. Keep promises to yourself.
  8. Protect time for your passions.
  9. Stand firm in small decisions to build courage.
  10. Recognize that boundaries protect love, not block it.

Creative Expression

  1. Write poetry or personal reflections.
  2. Create art that feels meaningful.
  3. Journal free from judgment.
  4. Sing, dance, or play music to express emotion.
  5. Write stories that mirror your values.
  6. Explore tattoos or symbols that represent you.
  7. Collect objects that hold personal meaning.
  8. Express feelings through metaphors.
  9. Try songwriting or personal mantras.
  10. Let art be personal, not for approval.

Deep Empathy

  1. Imagine life from someone else’s perspective.
  2. Listen to people’s struggles without fixing.
  3. Validate emotions: “That must feel heavy.”
  4. Read memoirs to inhabit other lives.
  5. Notice when others’ values are disrespected.
  6. Support people in being authentic.
  7. Offer compassion in silence.
  8. Respect differences without judgment.
  9. Recognize when empathy becomes over-identification.
  10. Balance feeling for others with staying true to yourself.

Shadow & Pitfalls

  1. Notice when you shut down to protect feelings.
  2. Watch for resentment when boundaries are crossed.
  3. Avoid moral superiority over others.
  4. Balance depth with openness — don’t isolate.
  5. Watch for rigidity in values.
  6. Notice when “authenticity” hides fear of growth.
  7. Avoid judging others for not feeling deeply enough.
  8. Don’t retreat into self-absorption.
  9. Balance Fi with Te — test values in action.
  10. Remember, feelings are guides, not dictators.

Integration with Life

  1. Align career choices with values.
  2. Choose relationships that honor authenticity.
  3. Spend time in nature for inner grounding.
  4. Volunteer for causes you believe in.
  5. Use your voice in activism if it feels true.
  6. Journal about what makes life meaningful.
  7. Reflect on how past choices aligned with your values.
  8. Let intuition + feeling guide life direction.
  9. Support others by modeling authenticity.
  10. Live so your actions reflect your heart.

Lifestyle & Growth

  1. Create rituals that express your inner self.
  2. Build a “values vision board.”
  3. Practice gratitude journaling.
  4. Keep a collection of “soul songs” or films.
  5. Revisit personal milestones with reflection.
  6. Write your own ethical code.
  7. Spend time alone to hear your inner voice.
  8. Let emotions fuel creativity, not just pain.
  9. Accept that being misunderstood is part of authenticity.
  10. Treat Fi as your inner compass — trust, refine, and live by it.

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